Within My Intersectionality, Who Shows Up First?

How do you show up for others with your multiple identities? What more can you learn to do for others? I did a deep reflection and share what I discovered I could do.

Back in February 2020, I had the opportunity to speak with student government leaders at a regional public school in New Jersey. It was wonderful to get back in front of students, helping them become better versions of themselves. It was also amazing to spend time with a wonderful former supervisor, Donna.

As we chatted, Donna and I talked about how we have both grown and learned from each other. I first started working with her back in 2004, when the higher education landscape was very different. I remember telling Donna how I could exemplify how much I had changed.

In many ways, this story is likewise influenced by the journey of friends and former students who have begun their own journey as members of the transgender/non-binary communities. Their active reflections have made me think about my own journey. So let’s begin where the story should begin: The Beginning.

Where the Story Begins

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